Candlelight.......

An amazing concept! Did you ever light a candle and just seat there and look at the flame? WOW! It is never the same! The flame moves as if it is graciously dancing the waltz of life! What you see at one moment it is gone forever never to be seen again. So, you must look, enjoy, absorb, and appreciate everything right then and there and not worry about the past or the future; because the past is gone and can never be recovered, and the future will bring you new things to enjoy. Love the moment; do what brings you happiness in your heart…

No Fear!

I have been thinking about this issue a lot lately! Fear can paralyze the common sense sensors of a person. With common sense absent, a lot of stupid decisions are made. My biggest fear was to be alone. This led me to some decisions which fucked up my life for the last few years. Nothing tragic but a lot of uncomfortable moments! There is nothing worst than letting your fears dictate how you make decisions. Believe in your self and always have as your guiding light the values, needs, and wants which make you who you are! Long for happiness! No fear will lead you to that!

The goal......

Spirituality leads to happiness! What leads to spirituality are virtues of trust, truth, commitment, honesty, transparency, loyalty, and respect for our selves and others. Those are the values which allow us to develop depth of character and in turn help us truly love, care, forgive and be peaceful, be confident about our selves, and ultimately be happy. All this is a process and not a destination. Betrayal brings sadness but not hate, because hate is poison in our souls. When we disrespect others we actually cheat ourselves of the opportunity to happiness, to love, and to be loved. At the end of the road, material possessions cannot be counted, but having someone who truly loves you to hold your hand, kiss you softly, and tell you how beautiful it has been; that is priceless.

Shadows have no Soul

I will find my way, the fear is gone
Something has changed since you have been away
I cannot wait to smile again
I feel the urge to run towards the sun

I must remove the negative which sucks on my soul
Shadows cannot see themselves in the mirror of the sun
I have had enough, I am gonna stand up straight
I am ready to fight each day

I have faith, I will be back on top
No doubt in my mind, will waste no time
I will put some soul in this heart of mine
I can reach that open sky

Demetris Hadjisofocli
September 20 2008

The meaning of words……

I occasionally use words that are considered to be bad, negative, vulgar or improper, to help me make a point. I do not believe that there are bad or inappropriate words because words are attached to the meaning we give them as human beings. So, if the common meaning we give them is considered to be bad, then we should reconsider our understanding of the particular word. First, let us understand the definition of any word;

- A word is a unit which is a constituent at the phrase level and above

The official definition of what a word is has nothing to do with the meaning of the word. Thinking about it, I have even stronger conviction that there are no good or bad words but just words! So, run away with it and use the words that most express you, at the moment you choose to use them and do not worry about what others will think. If they need to recalibrate something is the “ethical meaning” they have assigned to the so called “bad words”!

On the Subject of Dishonesty.....

People in general are dishonest! However, if you ask anyone, they will tell you, and actually convince you, that they are the nicest people and they are always straight forward. Based on my experience, there are very few people who are straight forward and honest enough to tell you their truth! There are many excuses used to mask dishonesty and some of the most popular ones are; I did not want to hurt your feelings, I did not know what to say, I did not know how to say it, I did not want anyone to think bad about me and many other like minded and weak statements. In reality, what they mean is that they are “weak, selfish, and unfair people who think only about themselves”! Even thought the truth hurts sometimes, dishonesty hurts even more, especially when it is planned and it is underlined by ulterior motives. If you happen to come across honest and straightforward people cherish them, love them, respect them, and honor them with the same.

On the Subject of Change....

Change is always difficult and people tend to resist any kind of change. However, without change we will still be leaving in caves. Incremental change is vital to the very survival and transformation of our social, economic and cultural ecosystem. Change occurs for two basic reasons; either by design or by necessity. Visionary individuals can comprehend the strategic importance for bringing about change, and most often than not they push for changes at a fast pace because they assume that other people have similar acumen. The majority of people will resist this kind of visionary forced change. Change by necessity creates chaos because it lacks planning, preparation, and structure. It leads to unpleasant side effects, most important of which are the sense of loosing control and rejection. In the end, change can be viewed positively or negatively. My suggestion is that change should be encouraged and embraced! It perpetuates the very survival of the human race and all its activities!

Semper Fidelis

Semper Fi, which is an abbreviated version of Semper Fidelis, means Always Faithful! I love this moniker. It expresses me tremendously to the point where I am thinking about making it my fourth tattoo!

One of the most powerful feelings in the world is betrayal, but even a greater feeling is the ability to forgive but not repeat! There is a difference between forgiving someone who betrayed you but not go back to the relationship which bonded you with that person in the past and forgiving and going back without any recourse. I believe in forgiving and moving on, because if you linger around and you maintain hate and a sense of revenge in your mind, the only thing you will manage is to poison your thoughts and your way of life. So, forgive, forget, and move on! Let the perpetrator live with their conscious if they have one.

What the heck do they want!

Women in general do not know what they want! If a man is good to them, he is romantic, he works hard, loves them, and supports them as well as the rest of the family, they complain that there is not enough time left for them or that the guy does not give them enough attention. If the guy is an asshole and does not give a shit, then they go around complaining that he is abusive and a neanderthal.

So, the conclusion is that you must not be predictable! Keep the same basic values but do not be predictable with your relationships.