Is what she says, actually what she means?

Nope! But this is like cancer. We know what causes it but we don’t know the cure. The majority of women suffer from low self esteem and lack of confidence. They want and need validation on an on- going basis. As a result, they are not certain about what they seek in life. Mind you, this is generalizations, but the interesting thing is that a huge percentage of women feel like this. So, back to the main issue! If a guy is nice, they want a bad boy. If he is a bad boy, they want a good guy. If the guy tries to adjust, he is flaky. How will a guy react then? They say, be yourself! How the heck can I be myself if you don’t let me be? Know what you want and stick with it woman! How would you get the man you seek if you don’t even know what you want?

The Real Estate Paradigm

Listen! Among other things, we all want to have sex, make love, habahaba or whatever else you want to call it. I can understand women trying to make it difficult for us, but come one. What is wrong with you? You make it so difficult and we end up giving up and in the end you complain that nobody wants you. Sex is critical when it comes to relationships. It is not the most important thing but when it is absent, it is detrimental. Oh heck… who the fuck am I kidding. It is very important. The way you ladies deal with it right now is like this…. It is like you own a piece of land somewhere and the value of the land is 10,000 but you want to sell it for 50,000. Who in their right mind is going to pay you 50 for something worth 10? And after you complain that you only get losers to be interested. Off course you do. Because the normal guys are not going to give up 50! It is simple. So, wake up… make it difficult if you want… it will make us feel like hunters… but give some glitter of hope… show us that we should continue to try and there is a chance… don’t blow us off completely and expect us to keep pushing… it makes us feel like losers… and we give up. Give us a little something. And BTW, it is not bad to approach a guy when YOU like him… it’s cool… it’s kosher in our book…

What Women Want

I don't know! I have a hunch that they don’t know either. Off course, I am talking about women here because I am a guy. I am not interested in what guys want. Maybe guys are as confusing to women as women are to guys. But ladies, come on, decide some basic things you are looking for. Settle on some type of list, so we have at least a remote chance with you. You can’t change your opinion every 5 minutes. It is confusing, tiring, and in the end counterproductive.

The Age Difference

There is no age difference that is appropriate between two people in a relationship. Whatever makes someone happy goes! However, when the age difference is associated with personal and activity interests, then there is a problem. For example, people should have some common interests. Otherwise too much conflicting interest will lead to problems. This might not have to do only with age but age can be a factor. For example, interests in entertainment, music, food, movies etc. Off course, one must try to be accommodating, but not to the total detriment of ones self.

The Age

There is no specific age after which a person can have a relationship, short or long term. However, a person can only consider a relationship when he/she knows themselves and develop a list of the things they are looking for to find on their partner. Only then, they can have at least a small chance to have a happy and fulfilling long term relationship. Even then, when someone is prepared there is no guaranty for anything.

The Basic Premise

Women and men are different! Not one bad and the other good, just different. If you couple that fact with the premise that each person can only be certain about themselves, one can understand that there is nothing specific anyone can do to ensure that a relationship will be good, continue to be good, and will end by being good until death do us ‘part. So, each person must be able to stand on their own two feet without depending on someone to make them happy. Then you can try to find someone to complement and augment your life, as opposed to be on the hunt for someone to “make” your life.